The Girls Who Lead Our World

So we just finished Camp GLOW Parakou 2013 and I wanted to share with you some of what happened during the week.  It was a great experience, much like last year, and I again thank all of you for your various types of support for the project.  Between 17 Peace Corps Volunteers who are based in the region, we brought 52 girls between 6th and 9th grade to the University of Parakou, where they spent a week staying in the dorms, speaking French, meeting new people, pushing their limits, and learning about the possibilities that exist outside of the village life they know.

(I tried to post some pics but the internet refused, so that will come later)

The week went fairly well despite some bumps in the road (to be expected anywhere, but especially in Africa, where even the best laid plans often don’t equate to reality).  We borrowed the same university classroom that we used last year (though the dorms this year were much nicer!) and each volunteer chose several sessions to lead the girls through while the rest of us helped guide our assigned campers along.  I taught about hand-washing, malaria, clean water, and domestic violence, as well as escorting the campers on a field trip to an NGO that’s doing interesting work in agriculture and livestock raising at the end of the camp (the thirty minute drive to and from the field trip site felt much longer with a van full of girls singing camp songs at the top of their lungs the entire way…).  The most interesting session that I led was on domestic violence–I presented with my friend Rachel and we decided to emphasize the need to address this problem on a community level; the community is aware when a husband is beating his wife, and the neighbors and family are likely to be the ones capable of making a difference in the situation.  At the end of our session, we passed out different scenarios to each group of campers to see their thoughts on various domestic violence situations and to let them try their hand at resolving the various problems.  This was an intriguing activity that brought about an involved discussion about gender roles and what each person was expected to do in a relationship.  In the end, we arrived at the conclusion that a man never has the right to hit his wife, no matter the error she has made, but left many other gender questions unresolved.  

Much of the program was the same this year as last year, but there were some good changes to the schedule as well.  We added in a session on sexual harassment in schools, led by my friend Mariah (an English teacher posted near me who also plans to extend for a third year).  I see this as one of the most important sessions because it is such a huge issue in Benin, and it’s so widespread and typical that there are very few people telling the girls that it’s not actually acceptable behavior for a teacher.  The frustrating thing is that there are relatively few concrete actions that a girl can take if she has this problem (technically sexual harassment is against the law, but I’m not sure if any teacher has ever been convicted for it unless he has actually impregnated a student), but I think it’s equally as important for them to just be reminded that it’s not something they have to put up with and to do what they can to be strong and to avoid engaging in those situations.  Another change to the program was the addition of a relationship panel, featuring three married couples–one Beninese, one American, and one Beninese-American.  The couples were asked a series of questions relating to the roles of each person in the relationship and ideas on gender roles, having/raising children, etc, and they discussed the differences in answers.  The girls seemed to enjoy this session, and it was an interesting discussion.  The responses to the questions actually didn’t differ terribly much, probably because all of the couples were composed of young-ish, educated individuals with fairly progressive attitudes, but it seemed good and positive to have the girls see several varied examples of healthy relationships and the way that men and women can work together as equals.

For me, what stood out this year about camp is the way that it encouraged the girls to speak French and what a great thing that was.  Even during the school year, it’s rare to hear students speaking French outside of the classroom, and inside the classroom it’s mostly male voices who speak, because many girls are afraid to make mistakes in their speech for fear of being made fun of (and this is a valid fear–it’s an accepted practice in Beninese classrooms to harshly correct anyone who mis-conjugates a verb or can’t find the right vocab word, etc).  And especially in a rural environment like where I live, once school is out, students very rarely speak French.  I see the students that I live with forgetting their French week by week as the summer progresses, due to lack of practice.  And while I think it’s good for them to use their local language, because it’s part of their heritage and culture, it’s also important to have a mastery of the French language, because it opens up so many more possibilities for a young person, not only in Benin, but in the larger world.  When French can be competently spoken, youth can communicate with their counterparts from all over the country, and from other French-speaking countries, whereas the person who speaks only local language will always have to rely on a translator and thus will be less independent and less mobile, restricted to areas where their local language is spoken.  But during camp, because girls are interacting with people from many different regions and with volunteers who don’t understand local language, it’s necessary to speak French, and because there are no boys around to make fun of them, they feel more free to try, even if they’re still nervous about it.  

I brought five girls with me to camp this year and again relished seeing the transformation that occurred in even a single week.  I think I was a more competent chaperone this year after having done it once last year and I knew to walk them through the small things that I didn’t think of last year, like how to use a flush toilet (really rather different from a latrine or from other things that are practiced in village), and I regrouped them for a small, informal village reunion every night to check in and see their reaction to the day’s activities and to make sure there were no problems.  There was a bit of turmoil amongst the group, especially in the first few days, which I think largely comes from them being pushed so far outside of their comfort zones, combined with living in close quarters.  But generally, they seemed to really enjoy the camp and responded well to the experience.

Now that camp is over, I’m reflecting on ways to reinforce what the girls learned and to bring more girls into the group of leaders, so that it’s not just one week out of the year that inspires them and me.  I’ve decided to start a girls’ club this year with the high-schoolers, where we’ll meet once a week and talk about things, do fun activities, etc.  Other volunteers have these, and some work better than others–many have problems with attendance, which is why I’d avoided this idea before.  But I’ve decided to give it a try and to have confidence in it.  One thing I’ve learned from my two years spent here is that often, if you believe something will work, it will work.  If you’re not sure, other people pick up on your uncertainty, and it flops.  Additionally, I’m recruiting the ‘graduates’ of Camp GLOW to help me lead sessions during my academic camp on the subjects they learned about during camp.  That way, they’re given the chance to serve their community, to be a role model, and also to be a translator between the strange language of yovo and the way younger students understand things.  I’m pretty excited about this idea.  I’ll let you know how it works out.

Academic camp is set to start next Monday and will run for a month before school ‘starts’ in October.  I put that in quotations because the first month or so is usually taken up by the kids doing manual labor and the administration trying to put together a working schedule.  It drives me crazy.  But then again, how else are you going to essentially ‘mow the lawn’ of the school campus when there are no machines to do it and no money to pay someone else to do it?  It’s just accepted that the kids will work for their education.  The main unfortunate thing in my opinion is that it takes away from instruction time, which is already limited to begin with.  

When thinking about problems like these, there’s a quote that often floats into my mind, the origin/exact wording of which I’m unsure of, which I find to be quite fitting for the problems one faces in a Peace Corps experience:
God give me the strength to change the things I can,
The grace to accept those I cannot,
And the wisdom to know the difference.

Amen.

In other news, I recently got two rabbits!  They live in a largish cage behind my house and run around my concession during the day.  Their names are Etin and Oto, two words that mean “ears” in local language.  Their American names are Betty and Otto.  They’re adorable, as you can see if the picture posts here.  They’re not really much work to take care of since they can run around with the other livestock and they eat the by-product of the soy cheese that my concession family makes most days, as well as leaves that one finds in the fields, and I can buy rabbit food at market for fairly cheap.  I’m really happy to have them around, and I love to sit and watch them–they’re hilarious, cute, fluffy creatures.  

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The first night I got them, I didn’t have a cage yet and so they stayed in the house.  My cat wasn’t there when they arrived, and so I wondered how he would react to them.  I closed one of them in a spare room in my concession family’s house, and one in my living room and went to bed.  Around 5AM, Awi started meowing at the door and I thought “oh boy, show time!”  I got up and let him in, and in he pranced as usual, invigorated by his nightly prowl.  He got about halfway across the living room when he caught sight of the rabbit.  He froze.  He stared at the rabbit.  He didn’t hiss, he didn’t growl, he didn’t try to pounce, he didn’t try to run.  He just stood there and studied it.  The rabbit was actually fairly unconcerned by the cat.  She looked at him a little, and then carried about her business of investigating the house and eating anything in sight.  They played a funny game of slowly chasing each other around for about an hour (sometimes she would slowly hop after him and he would walk away, not wanting to seem like he was afraid, but also not wanting to get too near her, and then the tables would turn and he would follow her while she made her way away from him) before I became convinced that he wasn’t going to eat her and I went back to bed.  After a little bit, he made his way up to the ceiling, where he rested aloof until the rabbits were out of the house.  Now they co-exist peacefully and have virtually no interaction. 

Need Your Help

Hello everybody!

See? I promised I’d write again soon. This post will be kept short because its main objective is to tell you that we’re finalizing plans for this year’s Camp GLOW–the girls’ camp that I helped with last year–and we’re again in need of donations from people at home to make it happen.

Last year’s camp was one of the best experiences of my Peace Corps service thus far and I truly believe that it made a difference in the lives of those girls.  The opportunity to leave the village, spend time on a college campus, meet other motivated young women, learn about important issues that might normally be taboo and unspoken, and even just have a little fun is incredibly valuable and since we don’t charge the girls anything to participate, we have to fundraise it all between the Beninese government and our network at home.

So please, if you can help us with a donation of any amount, know that it will be making a difference (and even $20 or $50 goes a long way in Benin!). Even if you can’t, if you could spread the word to others who might be interested, we would all be grateful. The link to donate is here: https://donate.peacecorps.gov/index.cfm?shell=donate.contribute.projDetail&projdesc=13-680-015

Thank you in advance and thanks for reading!

GLOWing in the Dark

The Peace Corps experience is a huge roller coaster. Most returned volunteers will tell you that. It’s even part of the appeal of the thing–you take the terrible times with the incredible ones, and some say that one feels more alive this way than in the static sort of life that many find in the U.S. I probably rode the high part of that roller coaster for longer than many volunteers do, so it’s only fair that now I seem to be hitting a lower spot in the ride.

Recently, things have been getting a little difficult in both my personal and professional lives here (which, as I learned early on, are so intertwined here that they’re barely worth trying to separate). First (and I almost don’t want to write this because I have a feeling it’s not going to go over well with my readers), I lost Rafiki about a month and a half ago. Like many cats, he used to like to go out during the night–run around, chase things, sit in the cool shadows of the darkness, etc–and come back in the morning to sleep in the house all day. But one night he went out and never came back. I took the whole thing fairly well, I guess–probably because since arriving in Benin, I’d heard from other volunteers that the chances of having a pet survive the whole two years were perhaps a bit slim, so I had been trying not to get too attached to the little guy. I guess it worked. Emotional walls…they’re effective. Around that same time, I hit a stage of huge frustration with my work. I know I haven’t written a lot about “work” here, probably because it is generally so touch-and-go; just when I start feeling like I’m finally making progress and things are moving along, we hit another bump in the road and BAM, we’ve stopped again. And while most days, I feel like I find something useful to do, none of my projects are really coming together as they should be, and it’s so infuriating. I’m also losing patience with the state of the health center where I am based. The same problems that existed when I got there a year ago–lack of medication, equipment, trained personnel, etc–are still rampant and might actually be getting worse, despite my attempts to work with the people in charge to make improvements. I am someone who generally has a great deal of perseverance, but there are only so many times one can try and fail before the drive to try again starts to fade.

Then, in the most recent edition of “things Christina is going to complain about before she gets on with the rest of the blog already,” a couple weeks ago, I went with a bunch of other volunteers to Benin’s annual Yam Festival in a nearby city (yes, that’s right–a festival of yams…it occurs on the 15th of August each year to celebrate the first harvest of yams after the off-season. Mostly it’s a big party with a lot of yam pilé–it was awesome except for one thing) and got my purse stolen with my cell phone, camera, key to my house, and a bit of money inside. As you might imagine, this put me in a pretty bad mood–first because those are many useful and expensive things to lose in one fell swoop, and second because I should have known to be more careful in a situation like that. It’s funny, generally I feel like living here is making me more “street smart;” I’ve noticed in particular the development of that sort of 6th sense that tells you there is something wrong or danger is approaching in some way, and as such, I think I’ve avoided several potentially bad situations. But also, I’ve become so comfortable in my village that I seem to have forgotten some common sense about cities and events where there are a lot of people. The bag-snatching happened on the morning of the 15th, when a couple friends and I had gone to get breakfast. We sat down at a table near the back of an outdoor restaurant and I hung my bag on the back of my chair, as I didn’t want to put it down in the dirt. It seemed like the whole city was tired from partying the night before, and there were very few people out and about. We had a nice breakfast of omelets and coffee, interrupted only by one strange moment where a man came up in front of us, greeted us, and was saying a bunch of things that didn’t make sense. That must have been the moment when someone else snatched the bag because when I looked for it later, it was gone. It sounds obvious when I write it here, but that kind of strange interaction happens all the time here, since we stand out as foreigners and people like to talk to us despite the frequent language barriers, so at the time I just laughed and commented on how strange life is sometimes. We asked the staff of the restaurant if they had seen anything, but they were unhelpful (probably either hungover from the night before or still awake from the night before…not in the mood to help stupid yovos who can’t keep track of their personal belongings) and at any rate, it was pretty clear that the bag was gone. So that was that. Not pleased about it…as they say here “ça me fait mal”–literally, “it hurts me.” But what’s done is done, right?

So all by way of saying, it hasn’t been the best couple of months… Which is why it was so wonderful to have a really positive experience in the middle of it. Two weeks ago (or is it three now that I’m finally getting around to posting this?), we finally had the girls’ camp that I wrote you all about a long time ago, and it went splendidly. The Camp GLOW experience started on a Sunday morning, when I met up with three 14ish girls whom I barely knew, but who had been chosen for me by the administration of the school. I had expected them to be running late, as is typical here, but they surprised me by arriving even earlier than I to our agreed meeting spot. I greeted their parents, assessed the three young bodies huddled together on a bench, and asked them cheerily, “Are we ready?”
“Oui,” they answered in unison.
A pause, as I looked at them again.
“Are we scared?”
“Oui,” they responded more quickly, and with more gusto than I expected.
I tried to assure them that this would be fun and that there was no need to be nervous, but tension was definitely high as we met up with nearby volunteers and their girls and traveled the 3.5ish hours in several crammed taxis to Parakou, a city which none of them had ever seen.

As we entered the University of Parakou gates, a flock of young Beninese women welcomed us with a chorus of “Bon arrivé!” and helped to carry the girls’ stuff. These were the tutrices and junior tutrices of the camp–essentially the counselors/junior counselors, a role that we the volunteers shared with them. The tutrices are model women who are chosen from each participating community to act as sort of mothers away from home for the girls, and the junior tutrices are girls who had participated in the camp the year before and were chosen to come back as helpers because of their good behavior/performance. We were led to the home base room for the camp: a classroom that usually hosts the university’s English classes. The room was big, open and airy, and reminded me more of an elementary school room than one of a university. I remember feeling that way about university classrooms in Uganda, too, and I think it’s due to the climate; because it’s so hot, everything needs to be open, whereas in the climate-controlled environment of American universities, we prefer to close our rooms to keep out distractions. At any rate, the room had been decorated by the tutrices/junior tutrices prior to the campers’ arrival and was quite welcoming. The girls, tired and hungry from traveling all morning, were given a local frozen juice treat, bissap, and a fish sandwich on a baguette as they arrived and checked in.

After they were done eating, we took them to settle into the dorms where they’d be staying. The university has some extremely nice dorms that look kind of like modern apartments and have twisting staircases and are generally beautiful. These were not the dorms that we secured for GLOW. Our rooms were in an old, somewhat dingy, two-story brick building (apparently the less expensive option for students who don’t have the money for the nicer lodging). The locker-room style communal bathrooms seemed to be perpetually flooded and the rooms themselves were tiny, containing only a sole bunk bed and a tall, skinny cabinet for depositing personal possessions. Fine for a week, but hard to imagine spending my entire college career in a room like that. Even so, considering what the girls were used to from home, I think this dorm ended up being a good choice. My girls were assigned to a room on the second floor of the building, and it was the first time that some of them had ever been on the second floor of anything. I didn’t even consider this as I plowed up the stairs and wondered why they were taking so long to follow me. My friends and I realized later that stairs might be a tricky thing for people who had never used them before. The dorm also featured electricity and running water, neither of which was a thing my girls were used to. They were so excited to have their very own lightbulb with a switch in their room, and I knew they would sleep at least the first night with the light on all night, just because they could. (Unfortunately, the power went out that first night and they actually ended up being rather in the dark…) The rest of the campus was nice and rather college-esque, and I think it was a good environment for the camp. As we were standing at the bottom of a huge, shiny lecture hall on a tour of the university, I mentioned to the girls next to me that they could be back there in a few years as students, sitting in those desks, which is a possibility that probably doesn’t seem real to most village young people, but I hope that somehow for at least a few of the girls, seeing it may have helped it to become more real.

The camp followed a pretty normal kind of trajectory for that kind of thing: the beginning was a little rough and we were all wondering if we’d make it the entire week, but by the end the time was flying and it didn’t seem like enough. I think participating in camp gave me a good glimpse of why people enjoy teaching. It was the most amazing thing to see the transformation in the girls over the course of the week, and I suppose teachers see even bigger changes over the course of a year. The girls arrived quiet, shy, nervous, and reserved. Then as they got to know each other and us, they started emerging from their shells. Some of the activities we had were a lot like school–they were sitting in desks, and there was a lot of talking–but without the boys to overshadow them, we started seeing them participate and really shine. We had discussions about all sorts of things, ranging from the practical and straightforward, like malaria, clean drinking water, and book-keeping to the more taboo and complicated, like birth control, sexual harassment, and violence against women. We had three sessions in the computer lab, where many of them used (or even saw) a computer for the first time, while practicing the basics of Microsoft Word, PowerPoint, and Paint. We had a panel of professional Beninese women come in to share their experiences–a session that was truly inspiring and seemed to leave a big impression on the girls. And we had fun–playing with a gigantic parachute, making friendship bracelets, painting and drawing. And as the week progressed, I felt the change in the atmosphere of the entire room, as well as seeing individual girls blossom and grow. In those six days, in a safe environment away from the obstacles of everyday village life, I think many of the girls were able to forget about all the things that tell them “no you can’t” and started feeling that it was really possible for them to do big things in their lives. And during the closing ceremony, each girl’s face was shining as she walked to the front of the room to receive her certificate of participation and a surprise bag of goodies that we put together for them each, including a new school uniform, which is actually a pretty big gift and was highly appreciated.

The day my girls and I returned to village after camp, I was walking home after a busy afternoon of attending a funeral and then an impromptu trip to see a concert in a neighboring village when a man called out to me from the restaurant/bar on my way home. It was the father of one of the girls who I’d taken to camp, and he had been looking for me because he wanted to thank me. He insisted on buying me a drink, and as we were drinking and attempting to communicate through my limited Fon and his limited French, he told me that his daughter had told him all about camp and showed him what she learned and presented the new uniform. He kept telling me how happy it made him, because he was just a farmer and he had never gone to school, but now his daughter was doing so well and had so many possibilities open to her and now she had seen Parakou and the university, and maybe she would be president of Benin someday.

And so I think the darkness will not last forever. Until next time, CMK.

Like a Man

Today I am wearing my jeans. I brought two pairs to Benin. Why? I’m not quite sure. I don’t know when I thought I would have the occasion to wear two pairs of jeans here, especially because I knew that it would likely be blazing hot most of the time. I guess sometimes in the last hours of frenzy before leaving, one makes some odd decisions about what to throw into the suitcase. Regardless, today I am in the city and I am remembering how much I like wearing pants. They’re just easier than skirts or dresses. You can step over things, you can sit cross-legged, you don’t have to worry about them falling off (mostly a problem with pagnes here, since you just wrap the cloth around your waist–if it becomes untucked, it can fall. I’ve had a few close calls with those…terrifying!). But I can’t wear pants in my town. I’ve tried it a few times and the results were not good. I feel that when I wear pants for a day, I set back my integration in the community by several days. It’s as if things are going along just fine and I’m blending in and becoming sort of accepted as a part of this community, even if I do look different, and then I go and decide that I’m going to wear my jeans and the minute I step out of the house I feel the atmosphere changing. People start looking at me again, similarly to the way they did when I first arrived, and when I walk through the petit marché, the ladies who usually chat and joke with me are suddenly more reserved and talk amongst themselves as soon as I pass. I hear the word “pantalones” (a French word that has been adopted into Fon) and I feel their eyes looking me up and down. So I’ve given up pants in village. Because none of the Beninese women wear pants, it makes me seem foreign to them (and in the words of one of my young friends who keeps me updated on village gossip about me: “people say that it’s like you’re saying you’re better than everyone else when you wear pants”).

I certainly don’t mean to come off that way, but I can see where the problem arises. As an American woman who grew up in a fairly liberal and open place, surrounded by strong, confident women role models, and people who told me I could do anything I set my mind to, I now have a certain sense of freedom, independence, and self-assurance that many women around the world don’t experience. American women of my sort tend to believe that they are equal to men, and we generally have the same rights and opportunities as men. And we emancipated women wear pants. [I know there are some feminist readers of this blog who might cringe at my statement that in the US men and women have the same opportunities and rights, but for me it’s a matter of comparison right now.] In Benin, as you might suspect, things are not quite the same. I’ve been quietly noting the gender dynamics here since I arrived and know I’ve been strangely silent on that issue in the blog. I guess I was sort of hesitant to write anything that seemed like a snap judgement, and perhaps I wanted to give myself some time to adjust to the culture to see if I would understand certain things better once I was out of my American persona a little. Now it’s been over ten months since I arrived, and I’ve realized that I think I may be withholding information on this subject because I think my readers at home won’t react well to it. But I am supposed to be representing my experience of Benin accurately–hiding neither the good nor the bad–so I think it’s time to delve into this subject. And since Mother’s Day is coming up, it seems like a good time to be talking about mothers and other women.

Life in rural Benin has a patriarchal structure; women are generally seen as supporting characters in the movie of daily life, starring men. Much like the social systems that existed in the US until only recently, a Beninese woman’s purpose in life is widely believed to be to get married and have children–many children. This is starting to change to some degree in the more urban areas, where one can find educated women who pursue careers (indeed, in the large city hospital that supervises the health center at which I work, the chief of medicine is a woman–I think that is awesome), but if one takes the average Beninese woman, this is not the case. For instance, most women in my community are illiterate because they never went to school (many men are also illiterate, to be fair, but the balance of illiteracy definitely tilts far to the feminine side). This is unfortunate for me because it seriously limits my ability to connect on a real level with the women, because people who have not gone to school can rarely speak French. And while I’m working on Fon, I can’t carry on any sort of meaningful conversation in that language, meaning that I can’t speak to most women without a translator. This is a limitation on the efficacy of my work, and a contributing factor to the general masculinity of my friends in village.

While marriages here are supposedly entirely based on the free will of both parties, the man still pays a bride price to the parents of the woman, and sometimes a young woman is “given” as a means of payment when her father has gotten himself into a difficult financial situation. And in the marriage, the woman must be subordinate to the man. The man manages all the money, so even though the woman runs the household, if she needs to buy something, she has to ask the husband and he has to give her the money before she can make the purchase. He also controls all expenditures on healthcare, so if a woman or her child is sick and the man does not believe that it is serious, they will not be able to access care. The man also must know the whereabouts of his wife at all times; if she wants to go out to visit a friend, she has to ask permission of her husband. Many couples make decisions together, but in case of a disagreement, the man has the final say. Even outside of marriage, women are always supposed to defer to men, and they are expected to exhibit certain characteristics that are different from those that a man should exhibit. [Indeed, I know that I don’t necessarily act the way a Beninese woman should, and people have at times told me I am like a man, or I do things like a man.] In a marriage, a woman’s perceived worth is often tied to the number of children to which she gives birth, which is unfortunate in my public health view because having a baby in rural Africa can be a dangerous thing for women, but both men and women resist using family planning methods because large families are valued so highly here.

In addition, the sex of the children that the woman produces also matters (even though, scientifically, we know that it is the man’s chromosome that determines the sex of the baby–you might imagine that explaining that wouldn’t work too well here). From the moment a girl is born, she is seen differently than a boy. Most people want to have both boy and girl children, but baby boys are celebrated more than baby girls as a rule. One of my friends’ girlfriends recently had a baby and I was horrified to hear that he didn’t want to pay the health center for the delivery because it was a girl and not a boy. It’s odd how I can call someone a friend while at times not understanding him at all.

As children begin to grow up in Benin, they take on household chores to help their parents. In my concession family, for instance, the mother rarely cooks–it’s the kids who do all of the preparation of food for the family probably five nights out of the week. The father never, ever cooks (I’ve never even seen him do so much as to pour his own porridge into a bowl). [I actually discuss this subject often with my male friends, because as sort of a joke, they will sometimes ask me what I will be cooking that night and say that they’re coming over to eat (they never actually show up–it’s just for fun). But I like to turn it around and ask them what they’re going to cook for me. And then they laugh and say that men don’t cook, and I challenge them and ask why. I explain that in my country the men and women often share these jobs and that since I work too, I don’t think it’s fair that I’m expected to cook for them just because I’m a woman.] At any rate, both boy and girl children help with cooking and have other responsibilities around the house, such as getting water from the pump and doing other errands for their parents (even children under 10 are sent to the marché to buy things some nights) but the burden of household chores falls more heavily on the female children.

I sometimes watch my concession family in the evenings and wonder at the amount of work these girls have to do before they can sit down to do their homework. They function as sort of alternate mothers for the household when the actual mother isn’t around (she goes to the fields with her husband and then many evenings, she goes to church; the most the father ever does in terms of helping out at home is holding the baby while others are working). The girls typically come home from school around six or seven, leave again to go get water (they often have to make upwards of three trips to and from the pump, which is time-consuming and tiring), come back and immediately start preparing dinner (which takes quite awhile since they have to manually crush all the ingredients for the sauce), then they serve dinner to their parents, eat themselves, clean up enough so that the goats don’t eat the leftovers during the night, and then–often around 10PM–they finally can sit down and start studying. [Personally, by 10PM, I’m usually going to bed.] I don’t think they typically get a lot done because they’re so exhausted that they often fall asleep holding their notebooks. The boys help with most of these tasks, and some nights they will work while the girls do not, but typically the boys are the ones who are hanging out with me while the girls are working.

Until recently, many Beninese girls didn’t have the chance to go to school because their place was seen to be alongside their mother, taking care of household responsibilities. But now the government subsidizes the cost of education for girls, in an attempt to equalize the gender imbalance in schools. Girls theoretically benefit from free education until what corresponds roughly to 8th grade or so in our school system. In practice, they still have to pay certain other fees, but it is true that the government pays the vast majority of them. Removing the financial barrier to beginning girls’ education has resulted in higher numbers of girls in school, though in my community, the girl-boy ratio is not yet close to even.

In the past few months, I’ve started working a lot more with the schools in my community, and have gotten a bit of insight into the life of a female student in Benin. First, I’ve noticed that girls are much more timid in the classroom than boys. For instance, when I am giving health education talks (even on simple, non-controversial or embarrassing topics such as hand-washing) in the schools, it’s almost always exclusively the boys who answer the questions I pose. Additionally, I’ve been to a number of end-of-term celebrations at the schools, during which the top-performing students are recognized and given small prizes (notebooks and pens), and found it interesting that for each grade, the school recognizes the top three boys and the top three girls. I asked why this was and was told that because girls consistently achieve lower grades than boys, if they put both sexes together, very few girls would be recognized. I am curious to find out more about why there is this achievement gap, but I think it is probably related to the fact that girls have so many other responsibilities outside of school and also is perhaps intertwined with classroom dynamics. Honestly, though, I am not inside classrooms enough to really comment on the true causal factors.

One of the toughest things for me to witness and deal with is the way that many men interact with young women and girls here. By the time a girl hits puberty, men may begin pursuing her as a sexual partner. Certainly it is not all men who practice this type of behavior, but it is far more acceptable here than it would be in the United States. [Technically, Benin has similar laws to the U.S. in relation to sexual contact with young women–if a girl under 18 and a man over 18 have sex, then according to Beninese law, it is rape and the man can be prosecuted, even if the girl consented at the time. But in practice, things like this are so rarely prosecuted because of the difficulty of proof and because young women are so used to things like this that they don’t know their rights in terms of the law.] The idea of monogamy is not really given much credit in my community; men often have multiple wives and multiple sexual partners, and while it is not socially acceptable to sleep with someone else’s wife, sleeping with someone’s teenage daughter is another matter. Teenage girls often become the girlfriends (which sometimes evolves into becoming a second wife) of older men who already have wives and children, and the general social perception of this is that it is more or less normal. I see it a little bit differently, because I think these girls should be given the chance to grow up more before entering into relations with older men. Especially because I suspect that the power dynamics between an older man and a younger woman contribute a lot to pressuring girls into these sorts of things.

So, there are a lot of obstacles facing women and girls in Benin. And this whole subject is so intertwined with culture and custom that it’s difficult to know where one can and should make change, but what is clear is that any change in this arena will be slow and not immediately noticeable. But I also feel that this is the kind of thing that PCVs can really help with. Cultural exchange certainly counts for something, which is what even informal conversations with my male friends can be seen as. As for other, more obvious work on this subject, I’m currently in the process of starting a girls’ soccer team at the high school–a project at which the administration is sort of scoffing, but that I believe can work. I have one of the physical education teachers from the school on board and we’re set to start next week. Wish me luck.

Also, I’m part of a group of PCVs planning a girls’ camp for this summer. Camp GLOW (Girls Leading Our World, an acronym which unfortunately doesn’t translate into French) is one of many girls’ camps that PCVs have organized in Benin and throughout the world. It will be a week-long sleep-away camp on the university campus in Parakou (the northern city from which I am in fact writing this post–a place that very few of the girls in my village have ever seen) that will bring 6th and 7th grade girls from all over the Collines region of Benin together to learn, exchange, have fun, and just be kids (something that they rarely have the chance to do in their regular lives). We are planning short sessions on a variety of topics–from malaria and nutrition to basic computer education to self-esteem and sexual harassment–as well as time for sports and team-building and arts and crafts. I’ll be bringing two girls from my village, and the other volunteers will do the same, for a total of 50 girls. I’m really excited about it and it should be a really positive experience for the girls. The catch is, it’s an expensive event because we don’t charge the girls anything to attend, so we’re having to fundraise some money to cover the costs, in addition to money that we’re getting from the Beninese government. So…. if you have stayed with me thus far (despite this post being extremely long) and you want to help give these girls the skills and confidence they need to rise up and start being the leaders that Benin needs, follow this link https://www.peacecorps.gov/index.cfm?shell=donate.contribute.projDetail&projdesc=680-228 and donate what you can to our project. If each person reading this could give even $20, we would easily raise the money in time for the camp. If you can’t spare money at this time, no worries of course. Your moral support is enough:) Thank you all in advance. Peace and love. ~CMK